I came out of the closet to my family my freshman year of
high school. I tried to come out to my older sister during 8th grade
but in her words “Please stop you are making me feel uncomfortable.” My
sophomore year I came out to my best friend through text at a movie while he
was sitting right next to me. My other best friend I was terrified to tell
though because of comments she had said in the past. In the end though I did
tell her and she is still one of my number one supporters. My junior year I
came out to everyone because I needed to let myself be me. It was the best
decision I have ever made. My parents told me instantly that they loved me no
matter what and that they would support me through everything. My dad also said
he has known since I was three. I guess that’s what happens when you play
pretend Harley Davidson in the garage every day. My aunts and uncles have also
told me that they love me no matter what. I have been so lucky to be surrounded
by friends and family that support me.
Sadly for some when they come out they don’t get that love
and support. People hear the coming out stories where they get kicked out of
their home or rejected by their friends and family. They hear these stories and
then they stay in the closet where they are alone and depressed. After coming
out the only thing that really changed was my best friend liked to gross me out
with her straight sex stories. She still does this by the way. Everyone
deserves to be loved and happy. For the straight people reading this I want you
to imagine growing up and living your life in what is “gender correct”. Playing
house and having to be the mom who is married to the dad but secretly you want
to be the dad or just want to have two moms. You grow up knowing you are having
feelings that aren’t considered “normal”. You don’t really understand why you
feel that way. Then one day you learn about homosexuality and everything starts
to make sense. You don’t feel like a freak or like there is something wrong
with you. You learn that you aren’t alone.
People are entitled to their own opinions but some things are
better left unsaid. People shouldn't be afraid to come out because of what a
close minded person thinks. If you have ever been in love straight or gay then
would you really want to take that away from someone else? That feeling of
being loved and cared for by someone that you are crazy about? People have
opinions but don’t let them keep you from being happy. To anyone who reads this
and is scared to come out there is a few things you need to know. You deserve
to be happy and loved and be in love. You are never alone even if you feel like
it sometimes. When you do come out it’s like a huge weight has been lifted off
of your shoulders. Finally after every storm there is a rainbow and I promise
it will get better. Love yourself for you don’t let anyone try to change you.
I always knew you had an awesome family! You were a pretty cool kid when I talked to you more often, and I can't imagine that has changed. So glad you get to be you.
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